How to Keep Planning Kickass Date Nights in a Long-Term Relationship

How to Keep Planning Kickass Date Nights in a Long-Term Relationship

Having a regular date night is one of the simplest ways to keep your relationship strong, but keeping those dates interesting is tough. Here’s how you can set yourself up to be able to easily plan dates that are fun and memorable.

Being committed to a weekly date night with your partner helps you two become closer and more connected. You probably know at least one couple who swears by scheduled date nights as a way to keep their relationship going. Once you have the right tools, you and your partner can use them to keep the fire burning in your own relationship.

Get Organized and Commit to Regular Dates

How to Keep Planning Kickass Date Nights in a Long-Term Relationship

Before you start regular date nights, talk over a few things with your partner to make sure you’re on the same page. Set expectations around who is responsible for planning them. Taking turns is a great way for both people to get to experience the surprise of not knowing what the date will entail. If you don’t have combined finances, you should also talk about how paying will work (and prevent the “check dance”). The rule I use: whoever planned the date night should pay.

Once you start planning, put your date nights on your calendar and make them a priority. If you have demanding work commitments, this may be a challenge, but it’s important. By setting aside specific time and not letting anything else interfere, you’re showing your partner that they’re a priority and that you value them. Getting date night on your calendar also makes it more likely that you’ll establish them as part of your relationship routine.

If you have kids (or pets that get lonely), find a reliable babysitting option, along with a backup, so your plans don’t get derailed by the kids. Alternatively, save on the cost of a sitter by trading off child care services with friends.

Keep Things Fresh with Novel Activities

How to Keep Planning Kickass Date Nights in a Long-Term Relationship

Adding date nights to your calendar isn’t enough, of course—you have to do more than go through the motions. To have successful date nights, you need to plan activities that make you and your partner feel excited. Focus on having a variety of activities that are new for both of you. You can use the novelty of these activities to revitalize your relationship.

Keep unique date ideas flowing by finding good sources of inspiration. Riff off of activities you both already enjoy. If you like food, make a list of restaurants you want to try or look for local gatherings of food trucks. Sign up for email lists for attractions you like to visit, local forums, and community mailing lists—they’ll give you a curated list of nearby events to pick from. You can also see if any local museums offer nightlife events, which are great for date night as they usually happen after work hours and offer food and drinks.

Services like EventBrite have tons of local events for cities all over the world and also put together calendars highlighting awesome activities for the month. Beyond that, check out sites like Thrillist (U.S. cities) and Time Out (international cities). They both feature local events and provide rankings, suggestions, and reviews of places.

If you’re really busy, try outsourcing your date ideas. There are plenty of services, sites, and apps out there that will send you ideas for dates. To start off, see if It’s Date Night, Delightful, BetterHalf, or 301 Date Ideas work for you and your partner. If you want to go a step beyond just outsourcing the date ideas, there are services (like Date Night Planners and For Love and Charmed) that will plan entire dates for you for a fee.

Go big every once in a while—not just for anniversaries or birthdays. You’ll surprise your partner, try something really new, and get to feel pampered.

Fill the Gap Between Dates with Small Gestures

How to Keep Planning Kickass Date Nights in a Long-Term Relationship

Once you start going on regular date nights, you’ll see an improvement in how you and your partner feel about each other and your relationship. Keep the good feelings going with small gestures between your scheduled date nights, like flowers, candles at dinner, or doing something special for the other person. Even just making them a home cooked meal or straightening up the house can build on the positivity that date night brings to your relationship (knowing their love language helps a lot in knowing which small gestures make the biggest impact). You can also capture those feelings by documenting your date nights with photos and other keepsakes, then displaying them so you’re reminded of the awesome stuff you’ve done.

Remember What Date Night Is Really About

How to Keep Planning Kickass Date Nights in a Long-Term Relationship

Keep in mind that date nights don’t always have to be super romantic in nature. Just finding something that gives you and your partner the chance to spend time together and reconnect is the most important part.

Some of the best date nights don’t have to cost anything, either Having a picnic in the park, making drinks at home then going on a stroll through the neighborhood, or an afternoon spent exploring a nearby attraction can all be wonderful dates. If you want to see what other people have done, check out Lifehacker reader suggestions for free activities in New York, Los Angeles, and San Francisco.

Also, in addition to new activities, you should also work on how to have interesting conversations that go beyond normal small talk. As tempting as it may be to use this time to address “housekeeping” topics, steer the conversation towards areas that allow you to learn more about your partner. Even if you’ve been together for a long time, you can still discover new things about your partner—or see how their thoughts and opinions have changed over the years. Avoid interruptions or temptations to check your phone by both agreeing to put your phones on airplane mode. If you’re at a loss for what to talk about, plan your date around a conversation sparking activity or ask your partner about a time in their life before you knew them. You might be surprised at some of the interesting anecdotes that arise.

Relationships are tricky to keep going, but with a little preparation and work you can use awesome date nights to help.

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Dave Ramsey’s EveryDollar Helps Create Your Budget, Meet Money Goals

Dave Ramsey's EveryDollar Helps Create Your Budget, Meet Money Goals

Many people credit Dave Ramsey’s “Total Money Makeover” approach to personal finance for helping them get in control of their money. EveryDollar is Ramsey’s new free budgeting and financial goal tracking tool.

Granted, creating a budget isn’t that difficult, and we’ve even featured Ramsey’s own free guide on the subject before. But there are more than a few approaches to budgeting and several tools you could use. EveryDollar is one of the simplest and most straightforward I’ve seen, not to mention easy on the eyes.

Main categories are already chosen for you, and as you allocate your income, you can see how much you are left to budget. This follows the “Zero sum” (or “give every dollar a name”) philosophy. Click the arrow to the next month and your budgeted amounts are conveniently copied over.

The Baby Steps portion of the tool tracks how you’re progressing according to Ramsey’s 7 steps, from saving $1,000 for your emergency fund and using the debt snowball method to paying off the house and leaving an inheritance.

While EveryDollar is free, to get actual financial tracking for your budget and connect your financial accounts, you’ll need EveryDollar Plus, which costs $99 a year. With Plus, you can drag and drop to match transactions to your budget categories, but if you’re a Mint user, you won’t likely need this. Still, the budgeting tool is handy (and can help you create a better budget for use in other programs).

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Feed a Large Family on $10 a Day with a 14-Day Rotating Meal Plan

Feed a Large Family on $10 a Day with a 14-Day Rotating Meal Plan

Food is one of our biggest expenses, but one mom, who feeds a family of 7 on just $300 a month, shows us that it’s possible to eat well without cutting coupons or relying on Ramen noodles every night.

Jen Wallwork Dominguez spends $3 per meal to feed herself, her husband, two teenagers, and three preschoolers. (We’re fans of the $4/day cookbook, but that’s $4 per person. Here, Jen is feeding 7 people for $3 a meal.)

There’s no real magic here. It’s all basically smart shopping and planning. She shops solely at ALDI, probably the cheapest grocery chain, avoids organic and processed foods, and relies on cheap food staples such as eggs and beans.

The most important part of her plan, though, is the rotation of the cheap ingredients. Ingredients do double duty instead of being used for just a single meal, which helps make those food purchases go further:

I’ve found the single, best way to save money on groceries is to use what is always least expensive and use it a lot. As such, there’s no great variety in my menus, no exotic ingredients that I buy for just one meal. We eat dinner on a two week rotation, lunch and breakfast on a weekly rotation. Yes, it can get a little boring. When that happens, I go looking for something else that uses primarily those same cheap ingredients. God bless the Internet.

If you look at her 14-day meal plan, the meals are pretty basic, but still appetizing, with dinners including a tilapia dish, lunch taco salads (made from leftover taco night ingredients), and hearty breakfasts as well.

While using meal planning to save money isn’t a new idea at all, and cooking like a peasant is a time-tested way to feed large families for cheap, it’s inspiring to see a real life example of how to carry out this strategy on a day-to-day and monthly basis.

How I Feed a Family of Seven for $300 a Month | Life in the Circus via Forbes

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